Style's 7 Step Formula (Online to Seduction)

1. Post Ad.

After posting your ad on a dating site, the formula is as follows;

2. First Communication

Bust her balls on something in her profile. Give her a hoop to jump through to meet your standards. Give her nickname. Write 'I'll tell you what (nickname). Email me at (email add.) and tell me three qualities you possess that would make me want to get to know you better. I will, of course, send you a non-illustrated pic or two if I like what you have to say.

If she won't jump through your hoop with '3 reasons'. Write

back 'I'll give you one good reason. You're a lot like me :) I don't like jumping through people's hoops either. I'm pretty high maintenance and it looks like you're the same way too. Let's start this over. I'm (name).

3. Exchange Pics

Bust her balls a little. Tell her you're impressed. Start a points system.

Write 'You've earned three points for your sense of humour and three for your adventurousness. At 15, you win my phone number.

4. Take offline

Write 'I can be slow when it comes to online correspondence because I get pretty busy so what do you say we continue this on the phone? My number is below. Or if you're shy and would feel more comfortable if I called, just email me your info.

5. Phone Call

Make one phone call. Don't say hello/introduce yourself instead refer to a private joke like Hi, (nickname). Have some prepared stories. Tease her a little into talking about herself as it will make her feel rapport. Make plans, say 'I'm busy Wednesday and Friday, but Thursday is good. Let's just meet for a quick drink. that way, if you're a complete nutbag, I can escape with my dignity. Plan to meet at an intimate bar where you can sit down.

6. The First Meeting

a) When you meet her, bring some of your friends, pretend that you just bumped into them as it's socially proofing yourself.

b) Greet her and sit down with your friends. At first, be very distant with body language. All negative.

c) Then go into routines like the cube. Say 'Hey, here's a cool way to get to know each other' My friend just taught me this, let's try it. Keep distant body language. Display humour and personality for now. As she warms up with her body language, start to give her some positive body language.

d) You're beginning to win her over, but don't kiss her yet.

e) Make a venue change. Pretend that you've made plans for afterwards, since you're getting along, she may as well tag along. Meet friends and include her.

f) Isolate her again in the new venue and use the evolution phase shift routine to make out with her.

7. Closing the deal

On the second meet you can f-close her as you'll have no LMR if you've had solid game. Take her home, make out. Say 'I'm trying so hard to be good right now'. See her again 2/3 nights later. Get her to come over before going out. Drink wine and fool around. If there's no LMR, close there. If she's hesitating, go out.

Day 2 Phone/Email Game

If you're texting her to set it up. Try a choice between two positives:

Would you like to meet me on Wednesday at 8 or Thursday at 6?

or use the decoy effect:

Would you like to meet me on Wednesday at 8, Thursday at 6 or Sunday for Church.

On the phone, always end the conversation first. Say you have to go, but don't explain. If need to, say there's a knock at the door, friend just came over, another call. If she initiates hanging up first, use 'I understand, but first... Then thank her and say I have some friends over and I have to go, but I'll call you sometime.

Tell her that you're about to go do something. Say: Well, let's see.... What's your schedule for the next few days? Why don't we get together (when) about (what time). Do you know where the (place) is? Great, if we get along, ten maybe we can go for a bite to eat.... but you know, coffee is a safe bet, this way if you're scary in person. I can say 'oh hey, umm, I just remembered that I have to floss my cat. It's really important and we can call it a night.

When arranging the date, imply consent, give her options like dinner, drinks, movie or bowl, go-kart, skate.

Try to make a day 2 at a mundane place. Somewhere you were going anyhow. Don't make her the event. It's probably best to avoid the common boring dates like coffee and dinner. Furthermore, don't take her to public gatherings unless you have closeness. So unless you're in comfort and built rapport, avoid places like bars, clubs, concerts.

Also confuse her by conditional. Say "We're watching (something) at my house, but make sure you don't laugh when you come in.

To lessen the risk of the chances of flaking, come out with: I bet you're one of those types of girls who flake aren't you? I can tell you say you'll do things and then bail out. Or, Now let me ask this... what are the chances that you're not going to show up tomorrow? Because one of my pet peeves is people that are late and flaky. I can deal with a lot of things, but I'm always on time where I say I'm going to be and I never have an excuse or don't show up. So I just wanted to make sure, because if there's one thing that could end our friendship before it starts, it's flakiness. Once she agrees to not flake, say "Great, it's going to be nice to get to know you better and if nothing else, we can just be friends.

Tell her when you're gonna call to chat. Ask her what's the best time to call. Tell her you'll call her that night when she's getting ready for bed to wish her good night. Use a visualization technique, telling her how you're lying next to her, talking, tucking her in.

Don't call more than 2 times a day every other day. Hang up if it's her answer machine and call her straight back. If you want to leave a message though, say Hey (name), this is (your name), I'm going out with my friends to (place) tonight, let me know if you want to tag along.

Or say 'Hey (name), this is (your name), I just had the most amazing idea, you have to hear this.

When she calls back, say 'I figure out how I could get you to call me back. It totally worked too. hey you won't believe what happened to me yesterday (story).

End conversation by saying 'I'll call you if my plans change, but otherwise I'll see you at (place).

If you're emailing her after n-closing her. Say 'Hey, it was nice meeting you (when)... what are you up to this week? Would you like to join me for a cup of something wonderful and some stimulating conversations. Talk to me.

If she doesn't respond, after a few days, respond with: What? Playing hard to get? Nice. Talk to me.

If you've got an email-close with no number, say 'What's you number and when's a good time to reach you?'

Shit Tests

A shit test is when a chick does/says something to judge a male's reaction/response. The test can be done consciously or unconsciously.

There are four ways to handle shit tests:

a) ignore it completely

b) redirect the conversation

c) answer it and put up own shit test

d) neg her for her shit test

You love me don't you?

No, but you know what I do love, those little ice popsicles things, where at the end of it you can suck out all the popsicle juice from the wrapper thing.

You so want me don't you?

You'd better buy me a few drinks and a dinner before you talk to me like that again.

Why don't you get me a drink?

Why don't you do my laundry. You shouldn't be so sexist.

Do you have a girlfriend?

I don't have A girlfriend, I'm too much for one girl to handle.

You're just a player.

No, I'm an entertainer. I might entertain you for a little bit if you behave.

How many girls have you had sex with?

Enough to know what I'm doing.

So, how much do you make?

Not enough to keep you high maintenance girls happy.

I make enough to know not to ask people how much they make.

I'm on a period, so do you still want to hang out?

Well you farted earlier and that didn't bother me.

You're so mean.

I'm sorry, you didn't strike me as the insecure type.

Aww, don't cry! Here just cause I like you, you can have one free hug, but after that it's back to $20 a hit.

Why are you smiling so much?

Why so interested? My eyes are up here.

What makes you think you're so special?

(hold eye contact and wait till she blinks). I'm the undefeated starring contest champion of the world.

If she's making sexual remarks.

Do you usually come off this strong?

Why don't you have a girlfriend?

A girl? I'm too much for one to handle. I need a whole staff to tend to my needs. Breakfast, lunch, dinner and not to mention all the love notes she would have to write me..... I'm high maintenance.

Why are you talking to me then?

I was talking to other girls in here and all of them just wanted to get me in the sack, like I'm some kind of sex object. Then I saw you and thought to myself, finally a normal person.

You seem like you do this a lot?

Do you mean talking to people? Wow, a cool girl who's anti-social, that has to be a first.

I barely know you.

Consider yourself lucky. Some don't know me at all. You know not that I mention it, I really should take care of that (walk away and talk to as many girls as possible).

You're just trying to get into my pants.

Actually, I'm trying to get inside your head, but that's funny you think you have a chance.

My friend likes you (UG).

Your friend must get more attention than you then.

If you're not gonna buy me a drink then why are you over here?

I'm looking for women to do my laundry.

So why are you still by yourself?

I'm currently recruiting, so anyway how do you feel about dusting?

All are at home doing their chores, except good old Lisa who's parked in the car park for when I need a lift home. You any good at gardening?

Do you even remember my name?

(Yes) Was I suppose to (name)?

(No) Of course I do, but the real question is what does your ID picture look like?

(No) I'm Gavin and I am a recovering social butterfly (shake hands)

Does my bum look big in this dress?

I dunno, I'm no expert in bum questions, but this guy (point) seems to like it.

Is that what you say to all the girls?

Yes, but with you I really mean it.

I have a boyfriend.

So? What if I told you almost every girl I know uses that one.

Teases

(in comfort) Wow we used to be SO close (cross fingers). It's like we were hugging. But now we've fallen apart (uncross your fingers, hold up a peace sign). Now, I guess you just wanna hold hands.

(acting up) Wow, how does your boyfriend put up with you? Err, I don't have a bf. Well that's probably for the best. So what am I going to get paid for babysitting tonight?

(Intro) So, what's your name? (response) Wow! That's a very unique. What is that, like Turkish or something?

(calls you out on something) Well, I thought I was being cute and funny. But I guess I was just being cute.

(she's hitting on you) Buy me a drink before you hit on me like that.

(when calls) Hey, how are you? I'm good, how are you? Good. Wait, you're good? (pause) I bet I could make you so bad.

(she's nervous) Hey, can you do me a favour? Um, sure. Can you smile? (complies) It looks good on you.

(at hook point) Have you ever met someone that you just felt so comfortable around? You know, you really hit it off with them? I totally know what you mean. Yeah, I've never met a person like that (smile)

(tries to bring you down) Why are you so happy? I don't know, but it's a lot of fun. You should try it out sometime.

(she says she has a boyfriend playfully) I can totally relate. I actually have two kids. Wow, we just started talking, never met before and now I'm your boyfriend already? What do you mean? I haven't asked you out yet.

(she says she has a boyfriend defensively) Wow, I'm sorry, you must have thought I was hitting on you. I was actually just being nice.

(she says she has a boyfriend bitchy) Great. Can you do me a favour? Tell him to go fuck himself.

(k-close routine) Hey, I've got something for ya. Remind me to give it to you later. (later) Hey, so where's my present? Okay, close your eyes and open your hand. (Hold by hand and kiss her) But that was only for you. So don't go around telling everyone I'm giving away free shit.

(before kiss) What is the first thing you would say after you kissed me? Um, I don't know. Well, let's find out. I bet you I could kiss you before you could kiss me. No you can't.

(disqualifier after hook point) Admit it, you like me. Yeah I like you...... but I'm not IN like with you.

(conversation run dry) Hey do you wear glasses? No. Oh that sucks. I guess you can't see how good looking I am.

(text gf having a bad day) You're silly. You're kind of weird and you're a bit too cute at times...but I like you anyway.

(setting time constraint) Hey, I got to let you go at 8.12. Why 8.12? Well, I got so much shit to do at 8.13.

(what do you do?) I'm a traffic light repairman. It's pretty cool actually, I drive around with a portable machine and I can change the colours on each light. So next time you're late for work, give me a call and I'll hook you up.

I pack parachutes for skydivers. You should come check it out. By the way, how much do you trust me?

I'm in a rock band. As a matter of fact, we're looking for a drummer and you look like you just might fit the part. I'll go ahead and put you on the list for auditions next week.

(build rapport) Did you know that the best compliment you can give to a woman is to simply repeat her name. Really? Yeah, for instance, what's your sisters name? (name) So, the next time you get off the phone with (name) tell her, I love you (name) or great talking to you (name). Then notice the difference. Repeat her name as you say goodbye.

(after k-close and hook point) I'm having a lot of fun. I think we should get lunch tomorrow. Yeah absolutely. Well what time do you think we'll wake up. Denies. I meant what time am I picking you up? Haha, you thought I was that easy?

(after k-closed on day 3) Walk up, kiss, peck on lips. I thought I'd make the situation awkward now, rather than trying to make it awkward later.

(day 3) I think I'm gonna wanna party again on Friday! Lucky you.

(DHV) Do you mind entertaining me over a drink? How about you take me out for dinner sometime?

(after escalation and isolation) Ask: Would you say you are an adventurous person? Yes. That's awesome! Me too! But would you say you're a spontaneous person? Yes. I'm pretty spontaneous myself! Now would you say you're a good kisser? Yes. Let's see...

(after text SOI) You should try out to be my new partner-in-crime. Long line, but it might be worth it.

(rock paper scissors) I bet you my next drink I can beat you in rock, paper, scissors.

(paper) I knew you were going to throw paper. It's in your personality. You just got your nails done and you want me to appreciate your manicure. Sorry, I don't do well with high maintenance girls.

(rock) Most girls throw rock because they have to feel emotionally superior and powerful. But I didn't think you were on of those kids.

(SOI, unprompted text) Hey you, I was just thinking about you. You know, you're one of the very few girls that can make me smile at 10.33am everyone else makes me smile at 10.34.

(after n-close) dial her number, tell her not to pick it up, leave an important message. Describe how much fun she's having, describe the situation. Put her on the phone, tell her to say something to herself about how much fun she is having. "Say something. But don't mess this up because this message is really important and I hardly ever leave messages for people". Next day, follow up the text. "Hey, I hope you saved that message for me. I want to hear it.

(kino escalation at interaction) Hey, I'm (name), extend hand, (secret handshake), (thumb war), (continue shaking hand as hold conversation).

(Asks you to buy her a drink) Well, I would buy you a drink, but then when you fall in love with me. I wouldn't be sure whether it was actually be me, or because I spoiled you.

(If says too old for you) You're right. In ten years from now, I'd be forced to leave you for a younger sexier version of a girl that looks exactly like you.

(fishing for compliments) I would love to give you a compliment but I don't want you to turn into a stalker because I am so sweet and charming.

(accused of using a pick up line) You thought I was hitting on you? That's cute, but I don't think you could handle me.

(arranging a meet) I'm interested in you... don't worry you'll probably say something to turn me away, as long as you don't speak, we're GOLD.

I'd like to meet you and get to know you better, don't get a big head on me or anything, all I'm promising is interesting conversation.

Examples of Cocky Funny

If you keep acting like a brat I'm going to spank you like a red-headed step child

I just met you and you're already starting with the compliments. Look, I'm not going home with you. I'm not that easy.

(End of the date)... Now don't call me three times a day. I had fun too, but no stalking.

(after kiss, she tells you to call)..... I'm busy tomorrow, but if you tempt me with a good enough offer I might make time for you the next night.

(she makes an emotional response).... How do you REALLY feel about it?

(after a wisecrack).... Anyway (look away)

(misinterpret what a woman says).... Let's go over to the bar to have a drink...Let's do it....Let's do it? You mean right here? I think the line for a bathroom stall is too long and I'd rather have a drink.

Well, I'm getting tired and I think it's time for bed...... Bed? I mean I don't even know if you know how to kiss... and you're trying to get me into bed? What happened to the old days when you could be friends first?

(exaggeration).... (see a fat woman) What would you guess? 900 pounds?

(complains about her appearance).... I didn't want to say anything (make fun f it more, embarrassed to be with her, talk about how everyone is looking at her)

How old are you? I'm 17...No, really.

(compliments you) I like your jacket.... No, you don't.. You're attracted to me.

She asks where were you last night as you didn't answer her call or return her message, I was at home thinking about you... but since you didn't call me early enough. I went out and hired ten strippers. If she pursues the question. No seriously, I was at home thinking about you. Ok, ok. You got me. I really went out with ten other women. Are you happ? What, are you feeling insecure?

Do you love me?

Of course.......... as a friend.

Bes and Don'ts

Don't

be needy

be wussy

be predictable

be clingy

start fights so as to make up later

call her too often

tell her your feelings too early

give away making her the boss

always ask her what she wants

act submissive and weak

accept her demands, bossyness and manipulative requests

put own needs aside

seek her approval

be insecure

touch too much in the beginning

crowd her too much in the beginning

say negative things about women/past gfs

get easily upset about things

act cool/show off to get attention

argue with everything

be too interested in the beginning

act too happy

talk about boring topics like school, work and family

Be

a challenge

mysterious

a leader

cocky funny

attractive

interesting

sexy

dominant

thoughtful

unpredictable

enthusiastic

adventurous

aggressive in setting goals

passionate

confident

an expert

disinterested

indifferent

charming

savvy, use language to interpret gestures and expressions

calm

cool

conversational

trustworthy

secure

capable of building strong rapport

humorous

a good lover

non needy

stylish

NLP

Challenges:

Are you decisive? Do you know what you want when it is right in front of you (point to self). Imagine what it would be like to get it, and then go for it without hesitation, or do you let opportunities slip away? (lean back).

Can you be crazy and spontaneous? (to get a quick k-close)

Are you a leader or a follower? (prevent her leaving with friends to go off and dance).

Do you believe in love at first sight? I don't..... but I believe one can feel an instant connection with someone and feel completely comfortable and relaxed, but still have excitement and anticipation that builds and increase with little touches and looks.