Handling Mixed Sets

Although the idea of entering a set with a mix of females and males can seem somewhat daunting. Usually the females are not with their boyfriends/husbands in a bar/club setting. Plus, it's highly likely that no other guy has tried to hit on the females in the set all night either.

When opening a mixed set, be sure to involve everyone. So speak to everyone. Add value to everyone. If there's ever an interrupt in a set. Just ask "Introduce me to your friend. It's the polite thing to do".

Once the women start to ignore the men, then you can do the same thing. If one of the guys tries AMOGging you, ignore him. The women will follow as they'll see him as being a jerk to the fun guy. Just brush off their comments with words like 'cool man/bro', 'whatever'. There's no point in getting into an argument/fight over anything as that's going to lower your value. Some guys may feel the need to AMOG back, but this can be a dangerous tactic. It's important to consider where you are in the set. So, if you have the women's attention then they will ignore whatever the guys say/do.

The List of Openers

Whilst some openers can be very lengthen with almost scripted like quality to them. Here are some that are a lot easier to remember and can be more congruent with your style.

Excuse me. I noticed you when I walked in, and I had to take a second to find out what you were like? (credit to David DeAngelo)

Hi, we're picking up chicks.

You're cute, but I'm going to make you a rock star.

You have an incredible energy about you.

You have an artless grace.

That's an incredible (accessory/garment)

Compliment openers should just be about style in general, never on physical beauty.

Hey guys. I need a female opinion. Do girls think the rock star David Bowie is hot?

You guys seem fun. I just wanted to come say hi!

Wohoo, party's over here. Just came over to say hello.

Are you wearing a wig....or is that your real hair?

When approaching remember to smile and have a warm friendly tone. Use body rocking, turn slightly away from the set as if you're about to leave. Use a false time constraint like, I can only stay for a second. I have my friends here. This is a verbal false time constraint, but with bodyrocking you can create a feeling of loss in the target, use it as bait to reach the hook point.

I'm lost..I can't find my friends and I'm scared...Remember when we were kids and you could just make new friends whenever you wanted....and you said 'want to be my friend? Do you guys want to be my new friend?

Sarging with a Wingman

If you're out on a sarging mission with your wing then don't tandem hunt. Don't both approach the set together. It displays a lack of confidence and telegraphs your interest.

You should approach the set alone and don't make the mistake of letting your wing stand besides you as it lowers the wing's value and if he is hanging with you then it's lowering your value.

Don't accomplishment intro your wing in front of him.

When your wing enters the set after about 1.5-3 mintues. Have him say "were just talking about.......(based on your opener). Your wing then works the set with his own opener like the fight outside opener. When the wing comes into the group don't have everyone in the set introduce themselves. Just have the wing talk to the target to accomplishment intro you whilst you, the PUA, works the obstacles then switch.

The Hiroshima Opener

Credit for this opener goes to Brad Jackson.

Before heading out on your sarging mission. Prepare a sign which says in big bold letters 'Someone's name, Wish you were here?' Print it out on an A4 piece of paper, fold it up and put it in your pocket.

At your venue, approach as you normally do.

Say "You guys look like fun. I need your help with something. Pull out sign slowly. My friend was supposed to come. But cancelled to have a first date with a girl they met online.

Tell the set that they represent the city that you're in well. Then ask them to pose in a shot holding the sign, you can jump in the shot if someone else can take the shot too.

Afterwards, add "You guys are rockstars. I have to get back to my friends now. But if you see any hot girls in here, send them over to me ok".

You could either return to your friends, hit the next set and return later or remain in set if you're building attraction and want to transition.

Cocky & Funny

David DeAngelo can be considered the pioneer of the C&F movement. For too long were guys just being wussies, kissing girls' boots, being nice guys. But along came funny guys who were just 'haha' and then there were arrogant, boasting jerks who came across as an a-hole. But what if you combine the two, well then you have cocky funny.

Here are some examples of this that can be easily used in the field:

When she's laughing/hitting you:

You love me.

This relationship isn't going to work.

Don't turn into a stalker, ok?

Teasing her: Take her hand "No hand holding this early". Offer hand "No really". When you do something, accuse her of doing it.

At the bar, standing next to a girl, in a serious voice.

"Will you please stop touching me". Look her in the eye "What are you doing at a bar for godsakes. Can't you find a nice normal guy? Or are you desperate?" If she says something along the lines of "I'm sorry, I didn't know......." Respond with "Well you did. And if you're going to keep doing it. I'd appreciate it if you'd touch a little higher".

Another similar one at the bar

She bumps into you. "Hey, watch it, ok? Keep some space here. I need at least a foot of room'

If they're being touchy touchy.

"Yes, I don't like being touched. So keep a foot or so between us please".

She asks boring questions (I often get this from girls and I even use this one a lot): "What is this a job interview? Can't you think of something interesting to talk about? Please spare me the pain of the usual school-job-family conversation. Let's save that until we're picking names for our kids".

If she has a large bag or purse, "What's with that huge purse of yours? You got a dog in there or something?

To a waitress, she asks "How many?", "Well there are two of us. I guess there will be three if you join us".

An important thing to note is the delivery, voice tonality and body language are vital. If you say it wrong, it will come across wrong and you're very much likely to get a cold shoulder or evil stare. It takes practise to get C&F down. If it's not your usual thing, then you may have some negative experiences. I'd also say that C&F works best with intelligent hotter women. But you may still encounter the one with a bitch shield. But these types of girls are never the ones you really want. You'll soon get a feel for this, and you'll know the type of girl who just eats it up so keep at it. Just make sure you get the right mix, too much of either one can provoke bad results.

Alpha Male Characteristics

These should include:

Leader of Men

Preselected by women (use of pivots, jealousy plotlines)

Protector of loved ones (family and friends=tribal leader)

Risk taker

Demonstrate the willingness to walk away

Ability to emote

Emotional wiring is healthy, fires appropriately

Other things to demonstrate as an alpha male are:

be proactive, not reactive. Thus if you are rejected by a woman, don't take the 'her loss' way of thinking. That's just sour grapes so don't do it.

have no expectation of the outcome

Add value to the group

bring interesting conversation. Be engaging, warm, friendly, happy. As if when you turn away from the set, they are left in the cold.

Be a giver, not wanting to get anything back

Don't be an emotional leech or an atmosphere vampire. Don't drain the energy of the set.

make someone feel good about themself

Introduce people to one another

A2 Characteristics

There are 6 key points that should be noted for this phase of the Mystery Method.

Confidence

Social Proof

Smile

Humour

Well Groomed

Connection

The first three have already been covered in other posts, but I would like to talk more about the later three points as well as discussing social proof further.

If you've got a 2 set, then walking arm in arm with them through a bar is going to build social proof. Don't just walk arm in arm with one of the girls.

When using humour, it should be a playful type whilst using kino escalation and building comfort. An opener could have been cocky like 'Do you know why you suck?' or a cocky DHV story such as My gf was an exotic dancer. In A3 you could be using the line 'So what have you got going for you besides your looks?', but when you get to C1 then turn off the cocky as you've won her. If you're playing with her at any stage, remember to take away the playing, walk away from it, tease her with 'Oh you're no fun/too easy' if having something like a pillow fight.

The idea of being groomed to most will conjure up ideas of wearing smart clothing with a nice hairstyle etc. However, being well groomed is focusing one particular item specifically like a necklace. This leads to the idea of peacocking which will be discussed later.

The connection is something which usually happens in C1. In Attraction stages, you weren't trying to arouse her as you may have got buyer's remorse. Once in isolation then drop the cocky and use vague and abstract language, not boring words. Examples include 'This is special. First impression of you sucked. Now you're special. I don't know why I feel this? I wasn't given an instruction manual.

Types of kino can include biting her neck, sucking on her tongue and grabbing the back of her hair and pulling.