Opinion Openers

Opinion Openers are approaches that do not convey interest. You're not complimenting her, or hitting on anyone. They are best used on mixed/large sets.

A way to lead into the opener is to start with 'I need a female perspective on something', 'I have to hook up with my friends in a minute, but, really quickly, let me get your take on something'. The latter uses the false time constraint, which is key so the set won't think that you'll be hanging around for too long.

There are many common opinion openers. Examples include:

My best friend's girlfriend found a box hidden in the dresser drawer and she's upset. It's nothing bad, just pictures of him and his exs on holiday and old love letters. She's freaking out and wants him to get rid of them or she's threatening to break up. Is this normal female behaviour? She wants him to burn them or she's leaving him.

When using an opinion opener, it's vital to have a reason why you're asking it. So be prepared for girls asking why are you asking? You'll need to say 'the reason I'm asking or because'. It helps therefore if it's something that's actually happened in your life. I've had opinion openers sometimes go on for too long or sometimes the target brings it up in another interaction. If the opener is going on too long, then cut the thread short, try to transition into a DHV story, so you may want to think ahead, but every interaction is different. Some sets get really into them, others not so much.

Texting

Important things to remember when texting.

Wait as long as she does to reply to important questions.

If she's taking a long time to reply to an important question then send her

'I know you're in awe of talking to me, but I need an answer'.

Be quirky, fun, share off the wall observations. e.g I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack. Can you believe that?

Recall an inside joke and her nickname. Hey (name)! I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today.

Recall specific fun interaction and add a new challenge.

Wow! You sucked at........... I am going to bet you again and again.

Have a strong frame and lead the interaction. e.g.

We're going on a picnic and you are making the cookies.

We're going shopping! We need to get you some new clothes.

Make sure your texts are grammatically correct, spelt correctly and not full of text speech.

If she's only texting one line responses, don't reply with a paragraph.

You can gauge her 101s based upon her response rate, the effort she puts into her texts. If she's using lol and haha and smililes or if she reole plays the frame. or if she sends unprompted texts like What are you up to?

If she gives lame responses, no LOLs or oMG, and just one word responses then these are IODs.

Let her make the last remark.

Set up things instead of waiting around.

If she denies your invitation. Send her 'Break your plans. I'm more fun'.

If she accepts, set up a timebridge, send her 'I'll call you in a few and we'll make our detailed plan about this picnic. I take my picnicking seriously.

When you make the first text, put your name at the end unless your number is in her phone already.

If they don't remember you, send her 'You aren't Paris Hilton, you don't get that many numbers'.

An IOD text to send her is:

I'm thinking of going gay. If I find a guy my size, it'll double my wardrobe.

I like you. On a scale of 1-10. You score a maybe.

Intrigue texts to send her are:

Nothing can ruin this day.

Something reminded me of you.

I saw the cutest thing. (sea otters holding hands on youtube).

I met the coolest chick yesterday. If she responds (IOI). Too bad she wasn't all that.

A list of flirty messages:

I would go shopping with you, but I don't want you to be tempted to make out with me in the dressing room.

Hey make sure you look cute tonight.

Hey honey, I'm going to be home late. How are the kids?

Now were you just saying you liked......... just to get me to like you?

You don't like.........., I don't think this is going to work out.

Call me if you don't know what to wear.

I met this really cool girl, But she was just too hard to read, I don't know, you think she likes me?

A list of opener text messages:

What are you doing cutie :)

SURPRISE!

Knock knock.....

How's my favourite little brat doing? :)

Ciao bella! Mi amore! My cheri amore!

I just made you open your phone for no reason..... Looks like I've got you in check :)

Hey goof, I bet my weekend can beat up your weekend.

What sort of trouble are you causing?

I am luring girls to my house with candy, which do you prefer, M&Ms or Skittles?

Hey... do me a favour. Text me right back, Just say hi or something... my friends don't believe retards can text. We'll show them lil buddy.

Girls are gross....

Hey princess, I just came back from the aquarium and I saw the cutest fish.... It reminded me of you :P

I hope you are smiling, if not, just think of me.....

Aliens are coming to abduct all the good looking sexy ass people. You'll be safe. I'm just texting to say goodbye.

Remember tomorrow is 'Hug a retard' day, so don't so don't freak out like you did last year. No one is trying to hurt you.

I miss you and wanna see you, but this dumb security guard won't let me in the zoo. Is there any way you can escape?

Why'd you have to give my number to your mom, she won't quit calling me now.

Your (insert attribute) is the second most attractive thing about you.

How's my 2nd favourite (nationality) girl doing?

In (subsequent year), the HK government will start shipping retards away. I started crying when I thought of you. Be strong, wear your helmet and run.

Here's my number, but don't call me before 9AM, I need my beauty sleep.

Today is National Good Looking Day. Send this to someone goregous, but not me. I've been receiving this text all fucking day.

For flakes:

I just met your twin.

I like talking to you and I don't play games. I think we're really good together. Let's try it, if not then that's cool and I'm glad we met :)

For push-pull

Out of all the (name)'s I know...... I think you're my favourite.

You just popped in my head. So Hi. Now please stay out of there.

Everytime I see u, I smile. When u walk, I laugh. When u speak, I get excited. For some reason, retarded people amuse the hell out of me.

For same night

Sweet dreams, sexy :)

Hey, I hope you got home safe (name).

Help me! Hurry back. I'm being molested over here.

If you are awake, then do me a favour, delete this message and go to sleep.

For attraction:

Let's fly to Vegas, get married, argue about our kid's third name, divorce and grow old lonely and depressed.

I don't know who your boyfriend is....... but he's not spanking you enough.

I don't think you're ready for this jelly.

Awwww, you're so sweet. You're making me get diabetes.

I just don't think we should do this anymore..... Sometimes you just make me feel like I am just a piece of meat.

You have my number now but you're only allowed to call ONCE a day. By the way who was that sexy guy you were just talking to.

For comfort:

I was just thinking of you.....

Something about you always seems to make me smile :)

For sex:

I know my math; u+i=69

This is a breathalyzer test. Please blow into your phone. Result: Positive 90% for sperm breath.

We do it in bed. We do it on the sofa. We do it on the table. We even do it in the car. Yep...... We love texting. Send this to everyone you do it with.

I am afraid we are only expressing ourselves in a very "texual" kind of way.... we better slow it down..... lol

You're unbelivable, not even one phone call since we last had text..... lol.

I love how soft your lips are. I can't wait to kiss them again.

I can't think straight anymore. All I can think about is 'text' with you.

Mulit-liners

Stop

Stop what?

Stop thinking about me and smiling so much, see I bet you're doing it right now again. Stop it.

Send blank text.

Why did you just send me a blank message.

Babe you don't have to make up excuses just to talk to me/ I think my phone misses your phone.

OMG! You wouldn't believe what happened to me last night....

What?

Oh shit, sorry, wrong (her name)

Hey... guess what's hard and pink and goes in and out and comes out wet and sticky?

I don't know.

Guess and you'll get a prize when I see you.

I don't want that.

What, you don't want bubblegum?

Congratulations!

For what?

I was just thinking of you. Congratulations.

Your (attribute) is the 2nd most attractive thing you have.

What's the first?

Can't tell u unless you come out for coffee with me right now

OK, what is it?

Me

LMR

Last minute resistance (LMR) is the 8th stage of the Mystery Method (S2).

The girl desires to be with you. But she gets a fear inside her, she becomes anxious before sex. She's thinking is this going to work, what if she gets pregnant, will she have to look after it on her own.

The Mystery Method gives 4 very useful tactics to imply to counter LMR and lead into S3 - Sex.

1. Solid game means having 7 hours of interaction before sex, so that she can't say 'But, I don't know you'. I've had this once with a girl. She thought it was too soon. I hadn't used solid game, but I barreled through using material like you've hijacked my brain, telling her that I plan on sticking around after sex. It must have worked because we dated for 2 years afterwards. So usually, sex should be happening on a day 2.

2. If she says 'we should stop' as things physically escalate, then keep saying to her that 'yes we should stop', like it's your idea, like you don't think you should go any further as you continue to escalate taking off her bra and panties. I've used this with a case of LMR and it worked.

3. Freeze out, simply say to her "I understand, it's all good". Do some mundane activity. A freeze out should last between 3-15 minutes, just continue talking. When you restart, tell her to remove whatever you stopped at.

4. Hijacked my brain, this is the kind of talk you'll use like 'when you leave the room. I wonder where you are. Use the travel bag routine. You're not in control of these feelings'. She wants you to feel an emotional attachment. She wants you to stick around after sex or she wants the option whether to stick around.

Of course, sometimes no means no. So never force yourself on someone, or you'll end up in a not so special place.

Routines - Questions Game

Question Game:

Usually a girl is going to ask you at some point in the interaction, a dull and boring question like 'so what do you do?', 'where are you from?' Yadda yadda. You could set up a hoop for her to jump through before answering these. But if you're in comfort and building rapport, then perhaps you'd like to get to know about the girl too so here's a fun game to play.

Set the rules for the game. The questions go back and forth, you must answer honestly. You can't ask the same question and no boring questions. Then tell her to go first, now apparently a girl will always tell you to go first at this point, but in my experience they never have done. If they let you go first then a good first question to ask to lead the game is 'So, how many boyfriends have you had?'. By the way, if she does take the lead and wants to ask the first question, I take that as an IOI. Of course, she can't ask this back to you about your girlfriends.

The girls I've played with this usually take the first question and run with the dating questions. I like to spice things up and ask other questions like 'When did you lose your virginity?' 'Have you ever gone down on a girl?' 'Where's the weirdest place you've ever had sex?' 'Name one spot on your body that you love being kissed except for your lips'.

Now using those questions takes careful calibration of your girl. I was unsure about using them on this rather shy and timid girl, but she gave honest answers. I discovered that she was a virgin, no lie. Glad to have found that out then and there and not later on. Needless to say, I didn't f-close that one.

Also, only use this game in isolation. She may not feel comfortable in front of her friends and they may also interrupt.

Negs & False Disqualifiers

A list of negs to use on your target. I like to use only one or two for HBs 7 and below. Three of four for HBs8-9 and 5 and up for SHBs. If you throw a neg out there, they may throw a shit test straight back so be ready for it.

In order to test for how many negs you should ideally use, try this:

Tell me something, on a scale of 1-10. What do you view yourself as?

Anyhow, here is a list of negs that are very easy to use in all interactions.

(when the target is touching) Hands off, wait your turn.

(when the target is trying to dominate the interaction) Where's her off button?

(when the target is touching) Hands off, hands off, this shit ain't for free. It's gonna cost ya 5 bucks for each touch. What are we starting a tab here? Wow, you must be rich.

(when the target is being a pain) How do you roll with her?

You dress her up, take her out.

They're very nice nails. Are they real? No? Oh, well they're still nice.

You hair looks shiny, is it a wig?

That's lovely hair, are they extensions?

I think your hair would look better up/down.

Is that your natural hair colour, well it's not bad. So, you changed it to that?

I like your look, beauty is common, but you seem like you have character.

You are nearly as tall as me. I like tall girls. Are those heels 3 or 4 inches?

I think I like your left eye best.

Ewww.........your palms are sweaty.

I like that skirt, I've seen another girl wearing it tonight as well. Is it from.............?

Is she always like this?

How do you guys hand with this girl?

Geez, you must have driven your parents crazy.

Hello, I'm talking, geez.

Um, it's too early in our relationship for you to be........

Where is your off button?

You look like trouble.

You're bad girls.

You're kinda cute, like my little sister.

Did your parents not give you enough attention as a child?

This is why we won't be able to have nice things.

You're already back to square one with me.

I don't know who was your last boyfriend, but he didn't spank you enough.

You seem way too nice for me.... at least say fuck a couple of times so we can get out of the PG rated conversation.

I feel like I can talk to you all night.....I can't listen to you though.

You're a very pretty girl. But this is Hong Kong, beauty is very common. A great personality..... that's very rare....... Great energy. You've got 2 out of 3, that's a great start.

(adjust her clothing) Now you're a superstar.

As soon as you throw the neg. you let it go, don't give her a chance to respond or you may get the shit test. Also, negs should be used playfully, you don't want to give the impression that you are insulting her. Sometimes guys might get frustrated with a girl and use a neg, and it'll come across as a hostile remark. So be careful.

If the girl negs you, then you want that. It's just her protection shield throwing off the negs. Just remember to be non-reactive, be playful, tease and have fun.

False disqualifiers are often used early in an interaction, possibly even as openers. They are used to show non-interest. Examples include:

Too bad you're not my type, cos you're real pretty.

Too bad I'm gay, otherwise you'd so be mine.

I'm too toxic for you. You wouldn't want to hang with me. At school, in your last year, I'd be the guy to tell you to quit.

Later in the interaction, you'll use an antidote to get rid of the false disqualification like telling her that it's your friend who's gay or something similar.

PUA Terminology

Cheat Sheet - a piece of paper with hints/tips for what to do in the field. When a conversation is dying, or you go blank. Just hold up your finger, get out the paper, skim read, put it back and continue. It could also be put on your phone so it appears that you're reading a message.

Fools mate - A woman who has sex with you in less than 7 hours of interaction.

Merging - When you introduce new girls into other sets. Either forwards into new sets to open or backwards into sets you've already opened.

Obstacle Interrupt - When someone joins the set.

Shit Test - When a woman tests the strength of your frame, women want men to have a stronger frame than them. She may ask you do something for her or answer a question. Nice guys get sucked in at this point.

Timebridge - When you set a date to see her again. It provides a dating loop. So when you are with her, you solidify what you're going to do next time. Building a timebridge is vital as just getting her phone number and attempting to arrange the meet can often involve in a lot of flaking. However, what you plan doesn't have to be the same as what you actually do. The meet should be something you were going to do anyway.

Handling Mixed Sets

Although the idea of entering a set with a mix of females and males can seem somewhat daunting. Usually the females are not with their boyfriends/husbands in a bar/club setting. Plus, it's highly likely that no other guy has tried to hit on the females in the set all night either.

When opening a mixed set, be sure to involve everyone. So speak to everyone. Add value to everyone. If there's ever an interrupt in a set. Just ask "Introduce me to your friend. It's the polite thing to do".

Once the women start to ignore the men, then you can do the same thing. If one of the guys tries AMOGging you, ignore him. The women will follow as they'll see him as being a jerk to the fun guy. Just brush off their comments with words like 'cool man/bro', 'whatever'. There's no point in getting into an argument/fight over anything as that's going to lower your value. Some guys may feel the need to AMOG back, but this can be a dangerous tactic. It's important to consider where you are in the set. So, if you have the women's attention then they will ignore whatever the guys say/do.