A1 - The Approach/Opening Part 3

If the initial approach is unsuccessful and you're rejected for whatever reason. It's never a good idea to insult the people you have tried to open. Not only does it lower your value but your actions will have a detrimental effect on your inner game. Instead a perfect way to eject the set is to simply say "It was a pleasure meeting you". No more, no less. Although, it may be worth using Mystery's "You are a little shit. Oh my god, I eat little girls like you for breakfast" if you encounter a true bitch who attempts to ridicule you. However, still follow that up with the "It was a pleasure meeting you".

When approaching a set, do not attempt to hit on anyone when approaching which is why it's important to use indirect openers at times especially with larger sets. You're going to need to win over the friends of your targets before you get to take the girl away from them.

Another example of a commonly used opener is:

Does this shirt make me look gay/small?

This works on many levels, if you go with the gay thing then you're giving yourself a false disqualifier and are not necessarily perceived as a threat. It's important to remember to use the word 'because' after using an opener such as this, for example. Does this shirt make me look gay , (response). The reason i'm asking is BECAUSE I was coming out of the washroom earlier today and this guy made a pass at me, I think he was trying to pick me up.

Lovedrop also talked about the importance of body language when approaching. He stressed the importance of never leaning in, should always lean back. Imagine planting one foot in front and one foot back, put your weight on your back foot. Make them lean in to you. When speaking, make sure you're speaking loud enough, if they can't hear you, don't lean in, make them lean in to you, gesture to her to come closer.

If you're facing someone, you're seeking rapport. Attempt to get her to face you, if she does then you can reward her by facing her after she's giving an IOI.

There is a lot of debate over what type of opener to use. I think it's best to use the canned openers as practise in the beginning. Once you're comfortable and confident with opening then you can pretty much think of whatever to open with. You'll see naturals just opening up sets left, right and centre and they're hardly ever using opinion openers.

Finally, just make sure that when you're in set you're making people feel good about themselves. There's a check list of things to be:

Be fun

Be exciting

Be playful

Be adventurous

Be a little crazy

Be a risk taker

Have a positive outlook

and know how to escalate (make things happen)

Here's another video with Lovedrop talking more about body langauge which is something I'll talk more about in my next post.