Is she IOIing me?

Now if you're using the Mystery Method (MM) and you've been telling your DHV story in A2 whilst ignoring your target except for the odd neg or two then you may not be getting too many 101s just yet. However, not all social interactions play out the same way, so here is a list that I will continue to add to which contain numerous 101s. Some guys swear by them, others don't pay attention to them. They're just there for reference.

• she keeps talking to you after you've used C&F
• After 3-5 minutes in, she's looking at you, she's comfortable with your presence and is not moving around.
• She's acting friendly.
• She gives you the vertical scan, she looks from your head to your feet, she's checking you out and if she smiles at the end then success.
• If she gives you the horizontal scan, from one eye to the other, then she's looking for the kiss.
• If she has dilated pupils, by this I mean that her black iris is larger.
• If she catches your stare, and you smile and she returns the smile then success.
• If you say hi and she reponds, success.
• If you engage her and she engages you back.

Now so far, you'll notice that none of these have anything to do with if she strokes her head, touches her chin or whatnot. I'm skeptical about those things, I think people just do them, but there's no meaning to them. But you can't deny the power of someone engaging you in a conversation.

IOIs which can show that you've passed the hook point are:

• she's asking questions.
• she asks you your name.
• she gives extended answers to questions.
• she turns her body language to face yours.
• she makes eye contact with you and not her friends.

A more comprehensive list was posted over at the mPUA forums by JSmooth and many of these IOIs I just recieved the other night from a girl who was at the bar with her boyfriend. Interesting.

• She initiates conversation after you've stopped talking.
• She giggles.
• She touches you or repeatedly in any way.
• She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you.
• She looks back and glances at you every minute or so.
• She tosses her hair to see if you'll look.
• She smiles at you.
• She stands near you (proximity).
• She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at what you said.
• While walking by, she brushed past you or turns her body to face you.
• She says something to her friend and they both giggle.
• When you're talking to the group, she is particularly talkative.
• She asks for your name.
• She asks your age.
• She compliments you.
• She is playful and tries to challenge you.
• She's disagreeing but laughing.
• She uses nicknames for you.
• She plays with her hair while talking to you.
• While she is sitting next to you, her leg touches yours.
• She asks if you have a girlfriend.
• She mentions your girlfriend without actually knowing if you have one.
• When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back.
• She holds eye contact with you for longer amounts of time.
• She avoids mentioning her boyfriend.
• If you like something and she says she likes it too, or she needs someone to show her how to do it.
• When she says or does something she looks at you for your reaction.
• She looks at you from the side to hide the fact that she's looking.
• She introduces you to friends.
• She buys you a drink.
• On the way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she's leaving (get her number).
• On your way out, she asks where you're going (invite her).
• She returns your calls.
• She invents reasons to be near you, interact or isolate you.

Passive IOIs

• She doesn't leave when her friends go off.
• She doesn't pull back or flinch if you get too close.
• If you move, she follows or waits for you.
• She doesn't resist when you physically escalate.
• She moves to see you and hangs out with you for extended periods.